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NON JUDGING

Our brains develop to hold pre-conditioned ideas and judgments about everything. As a time saving mechanism to quickly understand and categorise all input. This is a helpful feature of our cognitive process but in certain ways it can become harmful if we remain completely unaware of it. With the ever-increasing pace and information processing required in our modern lives, this cognitive process of quick judgements and categorisation has also gone into overdrive, often to the detriment of our mental health. We tend to judge before we try to understand ourselves or the world.

Without realising it, we may be drowning in spontaneous and unrelenting judgements about everything, which our mind often secretes without our conscious choice. Black and white instant judgements such as- good or bad, like or dislike, want or don’t want- are an inseparable part of almost all our experiences. With Mindfulness we don’t really stop such reactions, but we become more aware of this automated stream of judgements which can act as a veil or a distorting lens to our actual experience. Once we notice this constant judging, we have to learn to not judge the judging, to take a step back from it and observe the process as it unfolds knowing this is an essential part of how our brains make sense of the world. Simply get to know how our minds work so we can use it for our benefit and wellbeing rather than being a choiceless host to these mental processes left unchecked. This helps us cultivate discernment, clarity and wisdom, to recognise and understand the connectivity of things rather than automated judging. Judgements can be a lens that blinds us and keeps us from seeing things as they are. The practice of mindfulness helps us recognise this and frees us from relentless judging, which does not help us, rather deteriorates our experience and keeps us stuck in old unhelpful ways of thinking and reacting. Like the beginner’s mind if we can look at things without being pre-occupied by our judging, we may experience and understand things in new ways that can be massively helpful to our healthy growth and wellbeing.

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"A day spent judging another is a painful day. A day spent judging yourself is a painful day"

BUDDHA

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